11 Reasons to Try Online Dating

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Are you looking to meet new people? Are you looking to snag a special someone? Do the characters in your video games have a better love life than you? It might be time to give online dating a try. Still unsure as to whether online dating is really for you? Here are 11 reasons online dating might actually be the answer you are looking for:

1. Meet new people. Whether you are new to an area or looking to expand your current social sphere, online dating could be the solution for you. Even if you aren’t looking for a serious relationship or even a romantic one, (as long as you make your intentions clear upfront so as not to mislead people), online dating could help you enrich your life.

2. You have limited free time. In fact, almost all of your time is spent at work, you busy bee! Don’t force yourself to try to date one of your coworkers out of convenience on your quest to find love. Online dating is just as accessible with tons more options. Continue reading

Mate Poaching: A Field Guide

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It may be winter, but this year’s hunting season has already begun.

“Mate poaching,” or stealing someone away from their current partner to claim as your own, is not the answer to your happiness. It doesn’t matter how dreamy you think they are or that you “know” you are meant to spend the rest of your lives together. It doesn’t even matter that their current partner is horrible, doesn’t understand them, or have the time of day for them. None of those things matter. They are taken. Even if you were to poach them from their mate, they are not going to make you happy anymore than you’d be able to make them happy. The reality is that a person poached is more likely to cheat in the future, not susceptible to outside-initiated change, and is currently undeserving of your trust.

 

We all know the saying: “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” Is it always true? Maybe not. I, like most people, would like to believe that a cheater will realize they have been in the wrong and change their ways. But that’s not how it tends to go. More often than not, “once a cheater, always a cheater” is true. Sad, but true.

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What NOT to Compromise on in Relationships

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Relationships involve two different personalities finding away to come together. This involves compromise, and a fair amount of it! However, there are times you shouldn’t compromise –like when it comes to your identity. Making such compromises can make you feel uncomfortable, depressed, and taken advantage of. You should never feel like you need to compromise who you are to make a relationship work. If your partner does not love all aspects of you, then they are the wrong person for you. Here are some things that you should not be compromising on:

 

Your self-respect

Do not stay with someone who talks down to you, tells you what to do, or points out your every “flaw.” You are a human being, same as them, and you deserve respect. They are not “better than you,” “out of your league,” or even irreplaceable. The person you are with should appreciate and respect you. If they cannot offer you that, they do not deserve what you have to offer.

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Tips For An Awesome Double Date

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Going on a double date can be a fun and affordable way to mix up your date night routine. In fact, a double date can strengthen your relationship. For starters, you’ll get to tell some of your favorite stories again (like how the two of you met) without anyone yawning. You’ll be reminded of how great your partner is at telling stories and get to see them from a new perspective. Plus, a double date is a good excuse for the two of you to get dolled up since the two of you obviously dress to impress.

So are you ready to see what a double date can do for your relationship? Here are a few tips to have a successful night out with another couple:

 

Choose a good couple to go out with.

They don’t have to be perfect, but there are a few things you should keep in mind when deciding who to double date with. The ideal couple would be at a similar stage in their relationship. At a minimum, you or your partner should know one half of the couple fairly well. It’s even better if both couples know each other (at least in passing) so you can skip the formalities and get to the fun. Look for a couple whose relationship is one you admire or who are at least up for having a good time. Continue reading

7 Signs You Are in the Right Relationship

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We all think we know what the “right” relationship looks like: It’s endless fun, you make each other happier, and bring out the best in one another. While these are all signs of a good relationship, being in the right relationship is more than that. The right relationship is one that you can see yourself in for a long time (maybe even forever?) and, honestly, it is not all smiles and sunshine all the time. So how do you really know when you are in the right relationship? Here are 8 signs that you’ve got more than just a good thing going:

 

1). You treat each other as equals…because you are equals.

Your relationship should function like a team of two. That means both people in the relationship are important. When you’re in the right relationship, you truly feel appreciated and the give and take ratio feels in place (your partner doesn’t just take and you’re not always the one giving). When big decisions have to be made, you sit down as a couple and discuss things until you come to a decision together.

 

2). Both of you have the same vision for the future.

While the two of you have different life goals, you have the same big picture in mind. You have talked about where you both want to be as individuals and where you want to be as a couple. This ranges from emotional growth to geographical location. Planning a future together shouldn’t make you feel uncomfortable. It should feel natural and make you both excited about what is in store. Continue reading

Dealing With Romantic Rejection

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Romantic rejection happens to the best of us. You have a crush on someone and, once you work up the courage to express your interest to them, they shut you down before the two of you even had a chance to see what could happen. It might seem unfair and you might find yourself angry or upset at this loss of opportunity. However, it’s important not to get lost in these emotions. The world has not come to an end just because one individual isn’t interested in you. In fact now is when a new world can ultimately begin. So how do you get to that point? Here are some tips for dealing with romantic rejection:

 

React the right way.

The wrong thing to do is overreact. There is no need to ignore someone or speak ill of them just because they were not interested in you. Instead, when you are ready, build a new platonic relationship with this person. This is especially important if you know you will be seeing this person around.

 

Try not to look at it as “rejection.”

If anything, someone telling you that they are not interested in you is more of a favor than a rejection. While it may sting for a moment, they did you a favor by telling you the truth so that you can move on and find someone that is interested in you romantically.

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Problems With Pity Dating

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What is pity dating?

Pity dating is when you agree to go on a date with someone because you feel sorry for them or don’t want to hurt their feelings. Ultimately, you know that you are not interested in this person but you go on a date with them anyway.

People have various reasons for agreeing to go on a pity date, but the reality is that there is no good reason to go on a pity date. You heard me: there is no reason to go on a pity date. Now whether you are considering agreeing to a pity date, have been on a pity date, or know someone who has done one of the two, it is time for a reality check. Here are 6 reasons NOT to go on a pity date (and why we should put an end to pity dating for good):

 

Reality check #1: You are not doing anyone any favors by going on a pity date with them. Continue reading