11 Reasons to Try Online Dating

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Are you looking to meet new people? Are you looking to snag a special someone? Do the characters in your video games have a better love life than you? It might be time to give online dating a try. Still unsure as to whether online dating is really for you? Here are 11 reasons online dating might actually be the answer you are looking for:

1. Meet new people. Whether you are new to an area or looking to expand your current social sphere, online dating could be the solution for you. Even if you aren’t looking for a serious relationship or even a romantic one, (as long as you make your intentions clear upfront so as not to mislead people), online dating could help you enrich your life.

2. You have limited free time. In fact, almost all of your time is spent at work, you busy bee! Don’t force yourself to try to date one of your coworkers out of convenience on your quest to find love. Online dating is just as accessible with tons more options. Continue reading

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Mate Poaching: A Field Guide

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It may be winter, but this year’s hunting season has already begun.

“Mate poaching,” or stealing someone away from their current partner to claim as your own, is not the answer to your happiness. It doesn’t matter how dreamy you think they are or that you “know” you are meant to spend the rest of your lives together. It doesn’t even matter that their current partner is horrible, doesn’t understand them, or have the time of day for them. None of those things matter. They are taken. Even if you were to poach them from their mate, they are not going to make you happy anymore than you’d be able to make them happy. The reality is that a person poached is more likely to cheat in the future, not susceptible to outside-initiated change, and is currently undeserving of your trust.

 

We all know the saying: “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” Is it always true? Maybe not. I, like most people, would like to believe that a cheater will realize they have been in the wrong and change their ways. But that’s not how it tends to go. More often than not, “once a cheater, always a cheater” is true. Sad, but true.

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Ace the Approach: Talking to Someone New

meeting new peopleApproaching a stranger can be nerve-wracking. You might make a fool of yourself by stumbling over your words or they might flat out reject you. So why bother going through with such a daunting task? To reap the rewards of course! You’ll never meet someone new if you never approach them. Remember, feelings of embarrassment or rejection only last a moment. The horrible “what if” that plants itself in your stomach and blooms into your mind can haunt you for a lifetime.

That being said, your approach has to be strong. After all, it is someone else’s first impression of you. You want to be remembered for something positive, so make sure you do the approach well. Here are some tips to acing the approach and getting one step closer to finding real love:

 

Act confident.

Even if you are a nervous wreck, take a few deep breaths and try to act confident. You are just going to talk to another person. It will be okay. Tell yourself in your head that you are confident and you’ll find that you might just be able to trick yourself into confidence.

 

Body language says a lot.

Know what your body language is saying before you make your approach. Unclench your fists, trade your grimace for a friendly smile, and walk with your head up and shoulders back. Remember, you are trying to ooze confidence here, not let them know just how uncomfortable you really are. Continue reading

Dealing With Romantic Rejection

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Romantic rejection happens to the best of us. You have a crush on someone and, once you work up the courage to express your interest to them, they shut you down before the two of you even had a chance to see what could happen. It might seem unfair and you might find yourself angry or upset at this loss of opportunity. However, it’s important not to get lost in these emotions. The world has not come to an end just because one individual isn’t interested in you. In fact now is when a new world can ultimately begin. So how do you get to that point? Here are some tips for dealing with romantic rejection:

 

React the right way.

The wrong thing to do is overreact. There is no need to ignore someone or speak ill of them just because they were not interested in you. Instead, when you are ready, build a new platonic relationship with this person. This is especially important if you know you will be seeing this person around.

 

Try not to look at it as “rejection.”

If anything, someone telling you that they are not interested in you is more of a favor than a rejection. While it may sting for a moment, they did you a favor by telling you the truth so that you can move on and find someone that is interested in you romantically.

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Problems With Pity Dating

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What is pity dating?

Pity dating is when you agree to go on a date with someone because you feel sorry for them or don’t want to hurt their feelings. Ultimately, you know that you are not interested in this person but you go on a date with them anyway.

People have various reasons for agreeing to go on a pity date, but the reality is that there is no good reason to go on a pity date. You heard me: there is no reason to go on a pity date. Now whether you are considering agreeing to a pity date, have been on a pity date, or know someone who has done one of the two, it is time for a reality check. Here are 6 reasons NOT to go on a pity date (and why we should put an end to pity dating for good):

 

Reality check #1: You are not doing anyone any favors by going on a pity date with them. Continue reading

17 Signs You Have A Crush

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We are experts on ourselves. Or at least we’re supposed to be. Sometimes, there are things that even escape our notice. Crushes are one of those things. So how do you know if you have a secret crush on someone? We’ve made it easy for you! Here are 17 signs that you have a crush:

1). You think about them a lot when they are not around. You wonder what they are doing, how they are feeling, and even what they might be thinking about. This is how you pass a great deal of time.

2). If they are in the same room as you, you find yourself constantly looking in their direction.

3). If they make eye contact with you from across the room, you look away and try to “act cool.” Continue reading

Are they crushing on you?

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We’ve all either been told this before or have said it to someone else ourselves: it is hard to tell when someone likes you. Sure, you’re the first to figure out when your friends are crushing on someone (or when that someone is crushing on them), but trying to figure out when someone is crushing on you is an entirely different story. However, knowing when someone has a crush on you is important. You don’t want to lead someone on if you are not interested in them romantically anymore than you want to miss out on the opportunity of a relationship with the person who may be perfect for you. So how do you know when someone is crushing on you? Here is a list to make that task just a little bit easier for you:

1. They have nothing but nice things to say about you. They compliment you sincerely. When you’re not around, they speak highly of you to friends, acquaintances, or even people they just met. If they are talking to mutual friends, they’ll ask about you (and the people you care about) in order to get to know you better.

2. An obvious clue is that they are flirting with you. Less obvious might be the way in which they are flirting. Flirting takes on many forms and is different for everyone. Some people shower you with compliments, others make fun of you in a teasing manner, some don’t say much to you but their eyes speak wonders. Continue reading