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Worried you won’t have something to talk about on the first date or that you will just run out of topics? Worry no longer! Here is a brief list to get conversation flowing. Keep in mind, you want to get to know each other better on a first date, but you also don’t want to bombard your date with questions trying to learn everything you can about them in one date. Pace yourself. It is more fun and interesting to get to know a person over an extended period of time anyhow. The goal of this initial date is to see if you share similar likes, dislikes, and overall lifestyles to see if the two of you have a place in each others’ futures. If a particular topic is going over well with your date, ask related questions. If the conversation is feeling awkward or forced, it might be time to move on to a different topic.
Job (look for vibes that they enjoy their job. If it seems like they don’t or feel uncomfortable discussing their job, move on in the conversation) –What do you do? Where do you see yourself five years from now? (Warning: avoid asking too many questions in regards to this and just sort of let them share what they want to share. You don’t want your date to feel like they are at a job interview or, worse yet, and interrogation!)
Past and future travel plans –Have you ever been out of the country? When was your last vacation? Where did you go? If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be? What was your worst vacation experience?
Siblings (possibly avoid talking about their parents on the first date unless the other brings it up since parents can be trickier and carry more mixed feelings than siblings) –Do you have any siblings? What are they like? Did you all get along when you were growing up?
Pets –Are you a cat or dog person? Do you have any pets? Do you want any pets? Did you have any pets growing up?
Hometown –Where were you born? Where did you grow up? Did you move around a lot?
Academic career –Where did you go to school? Did you enjoy it there? What did you study? What was your favorite class? What’s one of your fondest memories from school?
Food and drink preferences (especially if you are at a restaurant) –What is your favorite food? What is your favorite drink? Are there any foods you will not eat? Is there any food you would like to try? What’s your favorite restaurant? How about a favorite ice cream flavor? Do you like to cook? What is the signature dish that you cook? Coffee or tea?
Hobbies and pastimes –What do you like to do in your free time? Do you collect anything? Do you enjoy exercising?
Friends –Who are your closest friends? What are they like? (This gives you a chance to get an idea of who their friends are –information that would be useful down the road if you hit it off. Just avoid asking them if their friends are attractive or single…it gives off mixed messages.)
Television –do you have a favorite actor? Favorite movie? Favorite television show? What is the worst show or movie you have ever seen? What was the last movie you watched?
Other fun topics –What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done? Do you have a favorite board game? If you could have any super power, what would it be? Do you believe in luck? Do you speak any other languages?