Go out on dates with your significant other on a regular basis. With everything going on in your lives at work or with your family/kids, it’s important that you take time to appreciate each other. But don’t just go out to dinner and sit across the table from each other in silence as you mentally go through your to-do list for the umpteenth time or sift through Facebook on your phone. Go out and act like a couple. Sit on the same side of the booth, go somewhere romantic, watch the sunset and stay out until sunrise…most importantly though, be proud to be seen with your significant other…and make sure they know it.
Whenever possible, go to bed at the same time, even if one of you wakes up earlier than the other to get things done.
Express your needs to your partner and listen when they tell you theirs. Act accordingly.
Hold hands when you walk or at least walk next to each other. It’s about spending time together, not following each other around like lost puppies. You’re out together so be together.
Put your phone down and focus on your significant other.
Sex. Have it. We’re all busy and we’re all tired but, at the end of the day, we’re all human. Let’s remember that.
Create and develop common interests…even if it’s just a T.V. show you two watch together (although ideally your interests will spread outside of the living room/family room/bathroom/ conservatory/ whatever room your T.V. is in).
While you want to have common interests with your partner, make sure to have interests of your own. This keeps you from being too dependent on your partner, allows you to do something you love, and keeps you interesting to other people as well. This will make you happy as an individual which, in turn, will make other aspects of your life more positive.
Trust. If you cannot trust, you cannot fully love.
Forgive. Holding grudges doesn’t help either of you. Let it go and move on.
Focus on what your significant other is doing right in your relationship. It is easy to caught up on what somebody is doing wrong, but take note of what they are doing right instead and you will find that you are much happier as a result.
Going off of that, you shouldn’t ignore the things that bother you or not have a talk with your partner when it is necessary. As important as it is to have a positive outlook, it is important not to let resentment build.
Start every morning with “I love you.”
Always say goodnight, even when you are mad. Things will look different in the morning.
Hug, kiss, etc. when you see each other again after being apart. This physical, loving contact will remind you of your love for each other. This includes long lengths of time as well as just the few hours for work. Embrace each other and embrace happiness.
Whether it’s a quick phone call, a series of texts, or an email, take some time during the day to reach out to your significant other at work and see how things are going. This allows you to catch up, show the other that you care, and allows you both to be on the same page when you see each other again.
Respect your partner. Remember, the two of you are equals and you should both feel that way. Giving your partner your attention, time, and love regularly is a way to ensure that they know just how much they mean to you. A happy partner will make you happier in both the short and long term.
Most importantly though, give your relationship your all. You will always be happy that you gave 100% even if things don’t turn out quite the way you had planned.